 Tips for Happiness 

1. Be positive: We must remain positive to live a happy life. Cynicism kills Happiness. One must remain free from all negativity to have happiness.

2. Admire the things around you: We should always admire all the beautiful things around us. When we truly appreciate something, it makes us feel better and happier.

3. Smile: Always put a bright smile on your face. It not only generates happy feelings inside you, it also creates a great impact on others.

4. Forgive people: Start forgiving people for their mistakes. No one in this world is perfect. Thinking too much about other’s mistakes put us in disarray. This disorder always has a negative impact on our life.

5. Never justify yourself:  Many people, during the course of their life put a lot of effort in justifying themselves. Why we need to justify our deeds? We are solely responsible for our success or failure and the glory or the pain is completely ours. So, there is no need to justify ourselves in front of others.

6. Love yourself: Self-admiration is key to happiness. We must have a positive feeling about ourselves. It is always better to love yourself than to love others. I know some people will disagree, but a little narcissism always help.

7. Have fun: Life is there to enjoy. Never hesitate to do some crazy stuff. A little childish behaviour is always good.

Happiness is the ultimate requirement of life. So, we should take every step to make our life happier. J

22-26 ...What a period for BOYZZZ!:D

For almost all boys in the age group of 22-26, the life is tiring yet interesting; difficult yet enjoyable; and most importantly settled yet confused: P. The magic of this age is beyond any word ;). I will jot down some points to explain why the life of boys of this age group (yes, I am talking about boys only) is so awesome and at the same time so awful.

Reasons for awesomeness: D: D

1. You are self-dependent JJ

2. You, now have that much needed AAJADI ;)

3. If you are single, every girl in this pretty world is yours: P, and even if you are committed, it must be your first love (assuming you haven’t started your love-affairs at the age of 15: P) which is always so delightful J

Reasons for awfulness LL

1. Gender Diversity Factor: P criterion of IIM’s...What? What the hell IIM has to do with all this?  Most of the guys of this age-group suffer from IIM syndrome: P, And IIM’s have taken all strict measures to make the life of these guys more difficult. If you are a male, general category engineer, better go and start preparing for AIM-CATS: P: P.

2. Marriages of classmates: P...Sounds foolish ;);) Actually a harsh reality: P, Girls of your age start getting married at this age and you can only see their marriage pictures on FB (Yes FB can be so damn frustrating sometimes ;))

3. You are still a kid for your company people: P.

This period is most eventful period in any boy’s life-cycle. The emotions are on an all time high. We expect everything to turn out in our favor as we believe we are the best in the business ;). But this is the period in which everyone should seriously think, what they want from their life, what their ultimate aim is and what they really want to achieve. For most of the people, this is the period for self-assessment and self-improvement. Awesome or awful, this is the period to enjoy; to learn; to prove and ultimately to reach your desired goal: D 

Keep working boys and rock the world: D: D

Vishwas Vats 

The Power of Optimism

Why are some people happier than others?

How they manage to smile even if the things are wrong?

How they always come out as a winner?

There is a simple answer to all these questions ... These people are supreme optimist. Optimism is the tendency to believe that everything will turn out well. Optimistic people always believe that they are responsible for their happiness and the future will only turn out to be happier. They never blame themselves when bad things happen; rather even in tough situations an optimist sees the silver lining.

"There are no hopeless situations; there are only people who have grown hopeless about them." – Clare Boothe Luce

Many people believe that Optimistic thinking is unrealistic, but research has proved that we can indeed live happier, healthier and more successful lives if we can learn to discover opportunities in problems. Optimistic  positive thinking helps us to become more assured about ourselves. It makes us believe that we can turn every difficult situation into merely challenging opportunity. It helps us in our personal growth and can also stimulate our creativity to find better ways to live. Optimism helps us to have a way out even in a tough situation and it propels us to do our best even when the things are not so rosy.

Personally, I hate pessimists. They always have a tendency to cry. They are special kind of brainless species who can be cynical about anything. You can’t win a battle by being negative. I firmly believe, to lead a glorious, magnificent, cheerful and successful life a person need to be an Optimist.

“It's better to be an optimist who is sometimes wrong than a pessimist who is always right” :):) 

Vishwas Vats 

Happiness “The Highest Good”

“Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you sit down quietly, may alight upon you” ... Nathaniel Hawthorne

Happiness is a special thing which everyone wants to achieve. Unfortunately most of the people never reach the level of happiness they always desire. To be truly happy is a question of how we start and not about how we end, of what we want and not about what we have. Happiness always comes through positive thinking and attitude. A person with negative thinking can never be happy. According to me there are four things, we must do to achieve happiness.

1. Don’t judge anyone: It is always easier to see other’s weakness than their strength. Judging people always give us a bad feeling and there is nothing good about this. Just, Love the people around you, try to make them happy and create a surrounding full of joy and fun. When we start judging, we stop loving and without love, there is no happiness.

2. Accept yourself: No one is born perfect. We all have some personality traits we hate. We must accept the fact that we can’t become perfect. Start believing that you are unique and special and that’s something you should be grateful for.

3. Spend time with the people, you love the most:  As I have already mentioned without love, there is no happiness. Relationships give us happiness more than any material in the world. Love is well above all the material lust. So, spend quality time with your loved ones.

4. Express your feelings: Feelings in any form must be expressed. If you suppress your feelings, you are never going to be happy. We all love our mothers, but how many of us say this on a daily basis. Expressing your love not only makes you happy but it also gives immense pleasure to others.

“Consider the following. We humans are social animals. We come into this world as a result of other’s action. We survive here on dependence on others. Whether, we like it or not we always benefit from other’s action. For this it is hardly surprising that most of our happiness arises in the context of our relationships with others.”... Dalai Lama 

Happiness is our ultimate reason for living. Happiness is really all there is and all there ever will be; all else is only a means to happiness. Aristotle has rightly described it as “The highest good."

Vishwas Vats 

Heaven, Hell and the Concept of Moksha

There is no word in western culture which can translate moksha or nirvana. According to their philosophy there are only two words, hell and heaven.  In Indian religions, there are three words, hell, heaven and moksha. Let me describe each word properly. Hell means misery; a state full of negativity; a state of darkness and utter loneliness. And heaven on the other end is joy, happiness and light. But “What is Moksha”?

Moksha is a term which has been made famous by great Gautama Buddha. According to him Moksha is freedom, freedom from everything, both hell and heaven. Pain may be ugly chain and pleasure may be a beautiful chain but it binds us, it prevents us from being free. Hell may be a dirty place, full of discomfort and Heaven may be a beautiful place with all comforts but poverty and riches are two sides of the same coin. One has to be free from both.

Hindus always say if you are free from all desires, you will go to heaven after death. This philosophy is contradictory as going to heaven is also a desire. Christians and Muslims also have similar kind of philosophy. There is only one theory which is complete in this respect, the theory of Buddha. Buddha says the ultimate objective of Life is to drop all the desires (even the desire of being into heaven) because only when all desires disappears, we attain Nirvana i.e. a state of complete freedom.

Why Buddha is right?

Many of you will be thinking why am I supporting Buddhism? I don’t know much about other religions, but in Hinduism, we have a basic concept that all desires are wrong and if you live a life free from all desires, you will go to heaven. But in heaven, you have Kalpavriksha (wish fulfilling trees), you desire anything and immediately, instantly  it is fulfilled. Here they go on talking against desires and still they want to go to heaven for fulfilling all their wishes and desires, quite illogical, I think.

This is the reason why Moksha is the ultimate reality. Only when we have transcended both hell and heaven, we can attain Nirvana. Buddha had described it as complete cessation of ego and meeting and merging into the universal.  In reality nothing like Hell or Heaven actually exists. Both of them are state of mind.

According to me, if you are a good person with high moral conduct, you will attain Moksha...The ultimate freedom. People like Buddha, Mahavir and Socrates can turn hell into heaven because of their purity. It is the fear of people which lead them to believe in the concept of hell and heaven. Just forget about all the fear, and then you will start believing in the concept of Moksha.

Vishwas Vats 

Pari – O-Special – Neeti !

Parineeti Chopra is the new sensation of the Bollywood. She is energetic, cute and sexy. After receiving lot of acclaim for playing a brash Punjabi girl in Ladies Vs Ricky Bahl, Parineeti has become the talk of the tinsel town. The girl stole the thunder from Anushka Sharma in that film. Our film industry is full of beautiful women. Right from the ethereal Aishwarya to sensuous Priyanka, every girl of the B-town charms us with their magic. Then, what’s so special about this new girl. There are three reasons which made me call her special.

 1. The extra cuteness factor:  In the era of boldness, we always want to see a cute girl. Believe it or not men always get impressed by sweetness of a girl. Parineeti has a winning personality. Her rolling eyes and superb body language makes her look more delightful on screen.

2. Ravishing eyes: The physical beauty of any girl can be best judged by seeing her eyes, and Parineeti scores a complete ton in this aspect. She has lovely and expressive eyes, Better we can say “Aankhen Bolti hai Uski”. I have seen many beautiful girls who look charmless. No one will appreciate you purely for your NAYAN-NAKSHA; you must have the appeal to attract others. Parineeti has that magic; she can kill you with her expressive eyes and face. If anyone has any doubt, go and watch Jigad ka Tukda.

3. Voluptuous beauty:  A girl or woman who is not fat but is curvaceous and beautiful. Parineeti is a great example of voluptuous beauty. Indian men like these kinds of girls, we always prefer them over skinny babes. Some people call these girls fat, and not so proper, I call them Sexilicious. There are very few actresses in our film industry who can boast of such beauty.

Parineeti has all the quality to become the most admired leading lady of Bollywood. The promos of her new movie Ishaqzaade are out and it is receiving overwhelming applause from the audiences. There is a great chance that, this movie will turn  into a huge hit. Pareeniti has already proved that she has something very special. This girl is magical and stupendous and I hope she scores big with Ishaqzaade.

Wishing her luck and success....

Vishwas Vats

Emotional Infidelity

EXPERT OPINIONS:
Psychiatrists define Emotional Infidelity as “A state when a partner shares intimate closeness with another person, other from his/her partner, and is preoccupied with thoughts of that person and even craves for spending more and more time with that person. It is any situation which causes some kind of emotional unavailability, along with damaging the quality of one’s existing relationship. The more perfect explanation of EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY is “It is an expression of either an essence or desire to be away from one’s existing relationship, without actually leaving that relationship”.

Emotional Infidelity is much more complicated from Sexual Infidelity. Sexual infidelity is pretty clear cut; someone steps outside the bounds of a relationship and engages in some form of sexual contact with another person. 

MY VIEWS:

Is Emotional Infidelity wrong? Seriously speaking, I don’t know because I find it hard to understand that “When can we term emotional attachment as Emotional Infidelity”? Is there any proper border line defined?

One can’t tag sharing your feelings with someone as betrayal! Krishna and Drapuadi shared great emotional attachment with each other, Can we call them as cheaters!!! No we can’t. Then, why there is so much fuss about EMOTIONAL CHEATING.  Great friendship between people of opposite sex is very much possible and essential for proper grooming of the individual. I firmly believe that we need a set of people (like-minded ones) apart from our spouse to live a perfect and balanced life. I am a great supporter and admirer of PLATONIC RELATIONSHIPS, as I believe it’s almost impossible for a person to satisfy all his emotional and intellectual needs from his/her partner.

There is a very thin line which differentiates emotional attachment with emotional love. Before sharing your feeling with someone other than your partner, you have to ask yourself a simple question “Are you emotionally mature to make this relationship work”? In most of the cases people become too much dependent on their friends with whom they are sharing their insecurities and this emotional weakness lead to EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY.

EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY AND MARRIAGE:

Marriage is a great and respectable institution. People nowadays, just need one odd reason to destroy their relationship. It is utter nonsense to kill your marriage life on the basis of EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY. If you feel that your partner is emotionally preoccupied, then it’s better to talk. Make them believe that you love them and want them back both emotionally and physically. I have heard many people saying that I can forgive my partner for one night stand but can’t forgive him/her for cheating me emotionally. This is foolish statement as no one can blame anyone for cheating him/her emotionally. If you love someone, trust him; Try to hold him/her for as long as possible. Personally speaking, I think this issue is very complex and people must think twice before ending their relationship on the grounds of EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY.

Vishwas Vats