Emotional Infidelity

EXPERT OPINIONS:
Psychiatrists define Emotional Infidelity as “A state when a partner shares intimate closeness with another person, other from his/her partner, and is preoccupied with thoughts of that person and even craves for spending more and more time with that person. It is any situation which causes some kind of emotional unavailability, along with damaging the quality of one’s existing relationship. The more perfect explanation of EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY is “It is an expression of either an essence or desire to be away from one’s existing relationship, without actually leaving that relationship”.

Emotional Infidelity is much more complicated from Sexual Infidelity. Sexual infidelity is pretty clear cut; someone steps outside the bounds of a relationship and engages in some form of sexual contact with another person. 

MY VIEWS:

Is Emotional Infidelity wrong? Seriously speaking, I don’t know because I find it hard to understand that “When can we term emotional attachment as Emotional Infidelity”? Is there any proper border line defined?

One can’t tag sharing your feelings with someone as betrayal! Krishna and Drapuadi shared great emotional attachment with each other, Can we call them as cheaters!!! No we can’t. Then, why there is so much fuss about EMOTIONAL CHEATING.  Great friendship between people of opposite sex is very much possible and essential for proper grooming of the individual. I firmly believe that we need a set of people (like-minded ones) apart from our spouse to live a perfect and balanced life. I am a great supporter and admirer of PLATONIC RELATIONSHIPS, as I believe it’s almost impossible for a person to satisfy all his emotional and intellectual needs from his/her partner.

There is a very thin line which differentiates emotional attachment with emotional love. Before sharing your feeling with someone other than your partner, you have to ask yourself a simple question “Are you emotionally mature to make this relationship work”? In most of the cases people become too much dependent on their friends with whom they are sharing their insecurities and this emotional weakness lead to EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY.

EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY AND MARRIAGE:

Marriage is a great and respectable institution. People nowadays, just need one odd reason to destroy their relationship. It is utter nonsense to kill your marriage life on the basis of EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY. If you feel that your partner is emotionally preoccupied, then it’s better to talk. Make them believe that you love them and want them back both emotionally and physically. I have heard many people saying that I can forgive my partner for one night stand but can’t forgive him/her for cheating me emotionally. This is foolish statement as no one can blame anyone for cheating him/her emotionally. If you love someone, trust him; Try to hold him/her for as long as possible. Personally speaking, I think this issue is very complex and people must think twice before ending their relationship on the grounds of EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY.

Vishwas Vats